Are you writing the story of your life, or are you letting other people and circumstances write it for you? You might not consider yourself a follower, but here are a few signs you aren’t in control:   You don’t like your job – Maybe you picked something because it was easier or safer than your ideal career. Worse, maybe you’re just doing what your family pressured you to do. You’re living paycheck to paycheck – The problem usually isn’t money, but your priorities. It isn’t hard for the stuff you own to turn around and own you. You feel obligated to do things you don’t want to do. Your first duty is to yourself. You can’t save the world while you’re miserable. Leading your life isn’t easy. It means freeing yourself from many different assumptions. That freedom can be initially terrifying and painful, which is why so few people do it. It is far easier to just follow the assumptions of society, even if it leaves you unfulfilled. Here are 7 rules that can help you start building a life worth living: Rule One: Never let another person dictate the terms for living your life. Not your parents. Not your spouse. Not your kids. Leading your life means you can accept the input of other people, but the final decision is yours. This means that career choice, relationships, beliefs and way of life are to be judged by you, not anyone else. This rule holds especially when you have doubts. Don’t let your moment of doubt become a weakness to be exploited by others. Not sure what you want to do with your life? Don’t sit passively and let other people decide for ...

  The physically disabled are excluded from numerous parts of society. A major place where they are excluded from is buildings that can’t accommodate them because they don’t have the ramps that need to be used and things like that. Since buildings aren’t ready for them then people who are physically disabled have a limited number of places where they can go, which in the end makes them even more marginalized then before.   Another place in society where they are excluded from is the work place. People aren’t supposed to judge someone and not give them a job just because they are disabled. But, it happens anyways. That makes it hard for them to live in their own and become more independent.   The physically disabled are also excluded from doing sports activities when people who aren’t handicapped. This makes it hard for them to participate in activities because they would have to find a place where the disabled can all play together, in like a league, and those might not be very common in some places.   They are also excluded from possibly hanging out with people that aren’t disabled. Others might not want to associate with them or give them a chance to see who they really are behind their disability. That poses as a problem because it’s not fair to judge someone just because they have a disability.

  There are more ways than ever to find out how much life is worth living, each time you feel so lonely, so depressed and then you start believing that you don’t belong here anymore, just look around you and make up your mind for a while…   Halfway around the world, I’m sure, positive, that there’s someone holding more pain in his heart than I hold in mine, & he suffers much more than I do.My lungs! They’re still full of air! Even the air is encouraging me & saying that I’m still alive, fine & healthy, it will never give up on me, it’s just waiting for me to get over this!!   Let’s make the memory do its job, let it remind you the happy moments that you have ever experienced, I’m pretty sure they’re endless!! So don’t let this horrible thing that happened to you deprive you of enjoying more happy moments, because you do deserve more!!   Look at your friends & the ones who love you, think how horrible they would feel when they know you committed that aweful crime, & they would even feel guilty & say: If I had shown him how much I loved him he would never think about killing himself.   Look at you!! You’re courageous enough to get yourself killed and say goodbye to nice things in life, as the moon, the stars, the sky, food, music, people… How could a living person with a beating heart between his lungs get separated from these things? That needs a high degree of bravery, so how couldn’t you have the courage to face your problems and try to solve them? & Remember, mate, God is the one who gave you life, so ...

A man went to a barber shop to have his hair and his beard trimmed as always. He started to have a good conversation with the barber that attended him. They talked about many things and various subjects. Suddenly, they touched on the subject of God. The barber said: “Look man, I don’t believe that God exists as you say.” “Why do you say that?” asked his client. “Well, it’s so easy, you just have to go out in the street to realize that God does not exist. Tell me, if God existed, would there be so many sick people? Would there be abandoned children? If God existed, there would be no suffering nor pain. I can’t think of loving a God who permits all of these things.”   The client stopped for a moment, thinking, but he didn’t want to respond so as to cause an argument. The barber finished his job and the client went out of the shop. Just after he left the barber shop he saw a man in the street with shaggy, long hair and a beard (it seems that it had been a long time since he had his cut, and he looked so untidy). Then the client again entered the barber shop and he said to the barber: “You know what? I think barbers do not exist.”   “How can you say they don’t exist?” asked the barber. “I am a barber and here I am.” “No!” the client exclaimed. “They don’t exist; if they did there would be no people with shaggy, long hair and beards like that man who walks in the street.”   “Ah, barbers do exist,” said the barber. “What happens is that people do not come to me.” “Exactly!” affirmed the client. “That’s the point. God ...

Proving that age is no barrier to cycling, Frenchman Robert Marchand has established a cycling world hour record for riders over 100 years old. Marchand, who turned 100 a few months ago, completed 24.251km around the velodrome at the World Cycling Centre in Aigle, Switzerland. “But I’m not playing at being a champion,” he said. “I just wanted to do something for my 100th birthday.” He rode a standard track bike with no aero equipment for his attempt, his biggest problem being his familiarity with velodrome riding. “I haven’t cycled on a track for 80 years,” he said. “You have to get used to the fixed gear! I prefer cycling outside but that is impossible at the moment. I don’t want to catch the flu. So I am short on training.”   During his preparation, Marchand was warned not to get his heart rate above 110, a rule that for the most part he obeyed. “I did climb a steep hill not long ago and went up to 134 but it’s best to avoid that,” he said. “But I would be very surprised if I had heart attack.   “For the last five years I have decided not to go for rides of more than 100km. There is no point going overboard. I want to keep cycling for some time yet.”   He claimed his ‘secret’ was none other than looking after himself. “I’ve never abused anything. I don’t smoke, I never drank much. The only thing I did in excess was work. I retired at 89 years old!   “But basically, I am like everybody. I am lucky that I haven’t had any major health problems. My advice ...

An inspiring life: Spencer West  Spencer West was born in Toronto, Canada, 31 years ago. He lost his legs when he was five. Doctors told his parents that he will never be able to sit up. But 26 years later he did impossible: he climbed Mt. Kilimanjaro over a seven-day period while traveling on his hands for 80% of the trek.   Inspirational and charismatic, Spencer West speaks candidly about the struggles he overcame after losing his legs at the age of five. He speaks about overcoming stereotyping and bullying, about finding meaning and happiness in a material world and how he never lost the hope or courage needed to mount personal obstacles. Infused with humour and humility, his thought-provoking message inspires people to find opportunity in every challenge. With every speech, Spencer leaves an indelible mark on his audiences, instilling hope and strong leadership so that they can inspire others to create positive change. In 2008, Spencer travelled to Kenya on an international volunteer trip where he helped build a school in a rural community in the Maasai Mara. On this trip, he met young people who strive to overcome challenges every day. He credits this experience for helping him recognize his true calling—to motivate and inspire people around the world. Since he began speaking, Spencer has reached millions of people including students, educators, corporations, college/universities, faith-based groups and families with his encouraging words. He captivated audiences of tens of thousands at We Day events with his keynote address, which was featured nationally on CTV. Spencer has shared the stage with such influential people as His Holiness the Dalai Lama, Dr. Jane Goodall, former U.S. Vice-President Al Gore, ...

Dalai Lama’s 18 rules for living :      At the start of the new millennium the Dalai Lama apparently issued eighteen rules for living. Since word travels slowly in the digital age these have only just reached me. Here they are.    1 Take into account that great love and great achievements involve great risk.    2 When you lose, don’t lose the lesson.    3  Follow the three Rs        Respect for self         Respect for others         Responsibility for all your actions.     4 Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck.     5  Learn the rules so you know how to break them properly.     6  Don’t let a little dispute injure a great friendship.     7  When you realize you’ve made a mistake, take immediate steps to correct it.     8  Spend some time alone every day.     9 Open your arms to change, but don’t let go of your values.     10  Remember that silence is sometimes the best answer.      11 Live a good, honourable life. Then when you get older and think back, you’ll be able to enjoy it a second time.     12  A loving atmosphere in your home is the foundation for your life.     13  In disagreements with loved ones, deal only with the current situation. Don’t bring up the past.     14  Share your knowledge. It’s a way to achieve immortality.     15   Be gentle with the earth.     16 Once a year, go someplace you’ve never been before.     17 Remember that the best relationship is one in which your love for each other exceeds your ...

The little country schoolhouse was heated by an old-fashioned, pot-bellied coal stove. A little boy had the job of coming to school early each day to start the fire and warm the room before his teacher and his classmates arrived.   One morning they arrived to find the schoolhouse engulfed in flames. They dragged the unconscious little boy out of the flaming building more dead than alive. He had major burns over the lower half of his body and was taken to a nearby county hospital.   From his bed the dreadfully burned, semi-conscious little boy faintly heard the doctor talking to his mother. The doctor told his mother that her son would surely die – which was for the best, really – for the terrible fire had devastated the lower half of his body.   But the brave boy didn’t want to die. He made up his mind that he would survive. Somehow, to the amazement of the physician, he did survive. When the mortal danger was past, he again heard the doctor and his mother speaking quietly. The mother was told that since the fire had destroyed so much flesh in the lower part of his body, it would almost be better if he had died, since he was doomed to be a lifetime cripple with no use at all of his lower limbs.   Once more the brave boy made up his mind. He would not be a cripple. He would walk. But unfortunately from the waist down, he had no motor ability. His thin legs just dangled there, all but lifeless.   Ultimately he was released from the hospital. Every day his mother would massage his little legs, but there was no feeling, no control, nothing. Yet ...

                                           

Shila Ghosh : a lady 83 years old who lives at pali in West Bengal. Every evening she comes from Pali to kolkata to sell the fries.The pedestrians out of respect buy the fries from her. After lung cancer took away her only son from her 5 years back,to make ends meet she works.Her nephew aged 30 works as a mover on meagre wages in pali. . When asked if she has a problem in travelling,she weakly smile ans says “No,the bus gets me here and my health is not that bad”. . She earns 400 rupees per day but still it is less for her family of four.Circumstances could have easily forced her to beg but her dignity and respect is everything for her,she would work till the end of her life rather than beg on the streets. . When we go on complaining, let us remember her….. she has chose to solve her problems on her own for as they say God helps them those who help themselves. . Wonderful woman, May god give her all the strength… She truly is an inspiration for all of us ….

  God could not be everywhere and therefore he made mothers. For a mother is the only person on earth Who can divide her love among ten children And each child still have all her love. “Youth fades, love droops, the leaves of friendship fall; a mother’s secret hope outlives them all.” -Oliver Wendell Holmes “Mother is the name for God in the lips and hearts of little children.” -William Makepeace Thackeray “A hundred men may make an encampment, but it takes a woman to make a home.” -Chinese proverb “Most of all the other beautiful things in life come by twos and threes by dozens and hundreds. Plenty of roses, stars, sunsets, rainbows, brothers, and sisters, aunts and cousins, but only one mother in the whole world.” -Kate Douglas Wiggin “The father is always a Republican toward his son, and his mother’s always a Democrat.” -Robert Frost “Being a full-time mother is one of the highest salaried jobs… since the payment is pure love.” -Mildred B. Vermont “You may have tangible wealth untold: Caskets of jewels and coffers of gold. Richer than I you can never be I had a Mother who read to me.” -Strickland Gillilan “A mother is a person who seeing there are only four pieces of pie for five people, promptly announces she never did care for pie.” -Tenneva Jordan “The hand that rocks the cradle is the hand that rules the world.” -W.R. Wallace “God could not be everywhere and therefore He made mothers.” -Jewish Proverb “Mother: the most beautiful word on the lips of mankind.” -Kahlil Gibran “To a child’s ear, ‘mother’ ...

That is attitude. 1) Heavy rains remind us of challenges in life. Never ask for a lighter rain. Just pray for a better umbrella. 2) When flood comes, fish eat ants & when flood recedes, ants eat fish.Only time matters. Just hold on, God gives opportunity to everyone! 3) Life is not about finding the right person, but creating the right relationship, it is not how we care in the beginning, but how much we care till the ending. 4) Some people always throw stones in your path. It depends on you what you make with them, Wall or Bridge? Remember you are the architect of your life. 5) Every problem has (n+1) solutions, where n is the number of solutions that you have tried and 1 is that you have not tried. That’s life. 6) It is not important to hold all the good cards in life. But it is important how well you play with the cards which you hold. 7) Often when we lose all hope & think this is the end, God smiles from above and says,’Relax dear, it is just a bend. Not the end. Have Faith and have a successful life. 8 )  When you feel sad, to cheer up, just go to the mirror and say, ‘Damn I am really so cute’ and you will overcome your sadness. But don’t make this a habit because liars go to hell. 9) One of the basic differences between God and human is, God gives, gives and forgives. But human gets, gets, gets and forgets. Be thankful in life! 10) Only two types of persons are happy in this world. 1st is Mad and 2nd is Child. Be Mad to achieve what you desire and be a Child to enjoy what you have achieved!

1. “If you are going through hell, keep going.” Winston Churchill 2. “Before everything else, getting ready is the secret of success.” Henry Ford 3. “Action is the foundational key to all success.” Pablo Picasso 4. “Success is not a destination. It’s a journey.” Zig Ziglar 5. “You must do the thing you think you cannot do.” Eleanor Roosevelt   6. “Do what you can, with what you have, where you are.” Theodore Roosevelt 7. “Small opportunities are often the beginning of great enterprises.” Demosthenes 8. “To avoid criticism, do nothing, say nothing, be nothing.” Elbert Hubbard     9. “Running from your fear can be more painful than facing it, for better or worse.” Chuck Norris 10. “Do the difficult things while they are easy and do the great things while they are small. A journey of a thousand miles must begin with a single step.” Lao Tzu 11. “If you accept a limiting belief, then it will become a truth for you.” Louise L. Hay 12. “If you have a talent, use it in every which way possible. Don’t hoard it. Don’t dole it out like a miser. Spend it lavishly like a millionaire intent on going broke.” Brendan Francis 13. “Because your own strength is unequal to the task, do not assume that it is beyond the powers of man; but if anything is within the powers and province of man, believe that it is within your own compass also.” Marcus Aurelius 14. “Ideals are like stars; you will not succeed in touching them with your hands, but like the seafaring man on the desert of waters, you choose them ...

Live for today, for tomorrow is not yet known. Dream a little, cos’ dreams make life worth living. Make a wish, someone might just hear you.   Believe in yourself, believe that you are made for greatness. Make some mistakes, for you have yet to learn. Learn to forgive, become the greater person. Inspire others, for they might be on their last shreds of hope. Make some friends, you will need them in your life. Show some kindness, your actions do unto you. Care for others, cos’ caring makes you human. Make others smile, their smiles are unspoken blessings. Show some love, love is all that you live for. Be a Human, because that’s what you have been born for.

If you talk or say something after you think about it this is not a success. “If you think and talk or say something this is you success of your life.” The question about what success comes from has been so much debated in our society. Some may think that careful planning contributes to success. Traditionally, young people turn to the successful people for guidance because young people believe that they can make excellent achievements through careful planning. Today, this view might be reversed. More and more people are taking a fresh look at it. Based on hardworking, they prefer taking risks rather than simply careful planning. The most persuasive argument is that people taking risks or chances are more likely to succeed than the others. Risks or chances are not questions that people who disagree the point can shrug off lightly. With the advent of advanced international communication, a great number of opportunities you will face to by which the traditional careful planning is threatened. The difference between the two opinions is courage to challenge yourself. Actually, the only one step in the gap is not boundly conquered at all, in most cases, which prevent too many cowards from succeeding at last. People being short of bravery  if they are prepared to admit it  could learn one or two from the brave ones who actually not only have courage but also are wise and confident. One of the biggest lessons they should learn is that how to plunk up your courage. The resource from which courage comes is nothing more than experience. It is hardly possible to decide whether to take ...

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You may write me down in history With your bitter, twisted lies, You may trod me in the very dirt But still, like dust, I’ll rise. Does my hopelessness upset you? Why are you beset with gloom? ‘Cause I walk like I’ve got oil wells Pumping in my living room. Just like moons and like suns, With the certainty of tides, Just like hopes springing high, Still I’ll rise. Did you want to see me broken? Bowed head and lowered eyes? Shoulders falling down like teardrops. Weakened by my soulful cries. Does my haughtiness offend you? Don’t you take it awful hard ‘Cause I laugh like I’ve got gold mines Digg in’ in my Station back yard. You may shoot me with your words, You may cut me with your eyes, You may kill me with your hatefulness, But still, like air, I’ll rise. Out of the huts of history’s shame .. I rise Up from a past that’s rooted in pain .. I rise I’m a black ocean, leaping and wide, Welling and swelling I bear in the tide. Leaving behind nights of terror and fear .. I rise Into a daybreak that’s wondrously clear .. I rise Bringing the gifts that my ancestors gave, I am the dream and the hope of the slave. I rise, …. I rise, … I rise.

Where is the real power in life? We live.We achieve many things. Experience many things. And yet life does not appear so simple, does it? Our lives can appear to always be so tangled up. Often entangled with many other lives through our associations in life. And from the results of our actions in life – at home, at work, with our job or occupation. And also in our leisurely pursuits, in our play. We have our talents fueled by our own motivation. Our confidence in our own strengths lends us much support in our ventures. Our discipline and behavior come from our positive demeanor and the way we feel about ourselves. We look after ourselves and this is evident in our healthy self esteem and self image. All in all a lot our lives are determined by our own attitudes and how we handle the precious commodity we call life on a day to day basis. That spark which is us is there for us. And throughout our lives. Our real task is to water it, cherish it, allow it to support us in our ventures. Without it we become a shadow of our true selves. But all is not lost. Our spark of life, that true power within, is on one of life’s greatest gifts. Experience that. Use it to realize your full potential. Fulfill your life. Live from that and see how our life can blossom as we move forward to claim our rightful place in life.

My Grandmother was always encouraging me to set goals and work hard to achieve them. She would tell me not to be a follower and not to set limits on what I could achieve. She truly believed that there were no limits that you could achieve whatever you wanted. A farmer won a first prize at the country fair for his huge radish that was the exact shape and size of a quart of milk bottle. Many were curious as to how the farmer was able to grow this radish that was the exact shape of a milk bottle. Finally one gentleman went up to the farmer and asked the question. The farmer replied, “It was easy. I got the seed growing and then I put it into the milk bottle. It had nowhere else to go.” You can use this story as an analogy to life – our lives are shaped by the kind of surroundings we place ourselves in, the people that we allow to influence us, and the goals we give ourselves. If we only dream and take no action then we get no further. But if we plan, set a goal and take action then our life takes a different shape. Don’t limit yourself; don’t put yourself in a bottle. Or in other words move out of what is comfortable and secure if you want to move forward.

Whatever you feel on the inside, You will experience on the outside. Life reflects back to you the way You most sincerely and persistently are. When you’re having a joyful day it’s because You’ve decided to do so. The world you see is directly Related to the world you intend to see. From nothing, in an instant, You can create joy. Where there was none before, You can express love. Do you realize the awesome power In your ability to feel the way you. Choose to feel? With that power you Can change the world. You’re extraordinarily skilled at Changing your feelings, and you’ve Had much experience at doing so. Beautiful feeling manifests in the World around you. This is your moment to live more Fully than you’ve ever lived. Feel the possibilities, And bring them joyfully to life.